On our best behaviour


Elise Loehnen looks at the ways in which women have been penned by the fake morality of the sins, and how we find ourselves complicit in denying ourselves a full existence for fear of crossing some sort of line – of wanting too much, being too much, falsely equating ‘self-control’ with goodness. In this process of self-betrayal, she finds, we have also betrayed each other. A bold and daring denouncement of that which has been used to condemn ‘badly behaving’ women, ‘On Our Best Behaviour’ asks: what does it mean to be ‘good’, particularly as a woman, in today’s world? And if a sin is something that holds us separate from wholeness or experiencing our own full humanity, what should these sins look like today?

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‘A stunning, big and bold encyclopedia of how to live’ LISA TADDEO‘A guide to liberation and a return to the authentic feminine self’ GABOR MATÉ‘Astute, radical and utterly compelling’ KATHERINE MAY_______________Why do women equate self-denial with being ‘good’?We congratulate ourselves when we resist the donut in the office breakroom. We celebrate our restraint when we hold back from sending an email in anger. We put others’ needs ahead of our own and believe this makes us exemplary. Journalist and podcast host Elise Loehnen explains that these impulses – often lauded as distinctly feminine instincts – are actually ingrained in us by a culture that reaps the benefits, via an extraordinarily effective collection of social mores:Lust. Gluttony. Greed. Sloth. Wrath. Envy. Pride. These so-called ‘deadly sins’ have been used by the patriarchy to control women throughout our history. For instance, a fear of gluttony drives us to ignore our appetites and an aversion to greed prevents us from negotiating a better salary at work. So, what would happen if we stopped trying to be ‘good’?Provocative and bold, On Our Best Behaviour is a probing analysis of history and contemporary culture that explains how women have internalised the patriarchy, and how they unwittingly reinforce it. By sharing her own story and the spiritual wisdom of other traditions, Elise Loehnen shows how we can break free and discover a path toward a more balanced, fulfilled way to live._______________‘Brilliantly reframes our toxic cultural programming’ LORI GOTTLIEB‘Half historical docent, half big sister with a hot cup of tea, read this and change your life’ TERRENCE REAL

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Weight 0.706 kg
Dimensions 23.4 × 15.3 × 3.7 cm










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